Trust comes before obedience….
Something that shouldn’t need to be said, but it does.
When you are getting to know a “Dominant” you are equals. Don’t forget that. You may be a submissive, but you are not his submissive until he has earned your trust.
Ask all the questions that you need to as you are getting to know each other. A real Dominant will expect it. A fake or a predator will tell you that you have no right to question a Dom or Master. Do not fall for that.
If you are unsure of what kind of questions that you need to be asking a potential Top/Dom/Master – google it. Google is your best friend. Look up BDSM Negotiations. Look up Questions to ask during BDSM Negotiations. Remember this is your safety – your life that you are talking about.
Ask what they are looking for, what they want and need. Be firm on what you are looking for in a Dominant. If he tell you that you don’t need to know that – run. You need to have a firm idea of what i going to be expected of you Before entering into a Ls relationship.
There are a lot of bad apples out there that use this lifestyle to abuse and worse. There are many that use it just to have a side piece because they see so many subs willing to jump into relationships with someone without knowing anything about them. Lack of knowledge, lack of personal responsibility for your own safety makes you an easy target for these type.
Also remember that even if they are a real Dominant, it doesn’t mean that you are compatible. Taking the time to get to know they really well will give you the answer of whether their wants and needs are compatible with your wants and needs.
Ask yourself if you would get married to someone you only knew a day or two? Then why would you put your life in the hands of someone that you do not know?
If your gut is telling you that something is wrong – even if they answer all of your questions perfectly – listen to it. It is better to miss out on that Dom than to ignore your gut and end up seriously hurt or worse.
Trust comes before obedience and trust must be earned.