Something came up in a conversation i was having with a fellow submissive today and i would like to share it with all of you.

It seems that there are some Dominants that are looking for a perfect submissive, so submissives are wondering how to become perfect. Let me tell you something that will ease that stress from your – there is no such thing as a perfect submissive. And shocker of shockers to some – there is no such person as a perfect Dom. We are all  human and subject to make a mistake. It is what we do with that mistake that shows what kind of submissive you really are.

All of us should strive to be the very best we can be. It is the job of our Dominants to help us become the very best submissive we can be. This is accomplished through the tasks they give us. It is also what our punishments should be about. Just as you give punishment to a child to help them become better people – that is what our punishments should be. If the reason you are being punished is not explained to you, how are you going to grow as a submissive.

And this is why it is so important to really get to know a potential Dominant before giving  him your submission. Behavior that may be amusing and or tolerated by one Dominant can also be seen as bratty, un – sub like behavior and be grounds for punishment – if not release. Find the right Dom for you is just as hard, if not harder than find the right husband/wife.  there are no shortcuts in any type of relationship.

Remember when you are looking for a Dominant – or a submissive – there is no such thing as a perfect Dom or submissive. Yes a Dom or a sub may be the perfect match for you, but there is a big difference in perfect for you and being perfect.

@ This is a work in progress. I will continue adding to it as more thoughts and ideas come to mind.